There are often moments in our lives where confrontation, situations, and circumstances will stretch us to our limits. People are people and they rarely think like us, react like we do or approach a scenario the same way.
In fact, recently I encountered several situations where people have been harsh, demanding, short-tempered and downright rude. In these situations, I decided to take the high road. I put myself in their shoes, asked questions and looked at the situation from their point of view. I approached the scenario with respect and compassion, accepting any role or responsibility I might have played. I spoke my perspective on the matter, expressed my feelings and in times when they seemed to not let go or wished to be continually abrupt, I merely removed myself from the matter. After all, there was nothing more that could be done on my part.
As I have gotten older, I have learned that my sanity, peace of mind and overall well-being is more important to me than winning an argument or being right about a situation or topic. This attitude does not mean I back down or allow myself to appear spineless or uneducated. But rather I choose to walk away from the toxicity it brings to my life, circumstance, and relationships.
Confrontation usually appears ugly and sometimes abrupt or violent. But if we confront these obstacles as opportunities, with an open mind, listening ears and understanding emotions, conflicts can become compromises or means of real communication, as well as a learning moment for self-reflection to those involved.
Girl, its time to focus on the sparkle. So, the next time you are in a situation that begins brewing hostility or confrontation, take a moment, step back, breathe. Most of all, in the beginning, remain silent and merely listen. You do not want to say or do something impulsive that you may later regret. As you listen, consider the other person’s point of view or the fact they may be going through something you know nothing about. If you feel inclined, state your opinion or viewpoint acknowledging that you respect their point of view although different than yours. Most of all, look at the impression you are leaving. It is often better to be kind than to be right. Often a heart that listens is more powerful than an intelligent mind that speaks. Once you come to the realization that you do not have to agree with them you can be confident that you have chosen to exchange being right to being happy. And being happy is a personal thing that really has nothing to do with anyone else. Choose happy.
© c. michelle bryant
Michelle Bryant is an entrepreneur, nationally acclaimed award-winning artist, inspirational speaker, self-published author of five books available at most online retailers, a multi-award winning, published photographer whose work is nationally used for worldwide marketing campaigns and featured on various items including but not limited to apparel. She shines her light and speaks from her heart in an encouraging and transparent manner and offers a message of hope, healing, and victory to any who encounters her or her works. You can check out her multitude of works at: www.divinelyfocused.com.