This year my daughter became a widow at the young age of 24. With a bachelor’s degree in Nursing, studying for her Master’s, she is working rotating shifts and single-handedly raising a five-year-old and a 10-month-old. Life is hard and exhausting. There are many times I speak with her and hear the trepidation in her voice. Working 12-hour days, picking up children, making dinner, giving baths, packing lunches and preparing bottles for the next day and so forth. “It’s usually 10:00 at night and I’m still in my scrubs. I haven’t stopped since I woke up at 4:30.” she says.
Of course, this life is not what she had hoped or planned and there are days I’m confident she’d simply rather quit. But somehow, when she looks at the smiles of her children and hears their laughter from the other room, she musters the strength every morning to put both feet on the floor and keep going.
I continually remind her that although life will always be filled with trials and frustrations, tomorrow will be a different day, and that every day she is making small steps toward obtaining her goals. “You are doing what you have to do today, to get where you want to be tomorrow.” I inform her. Things like that are a process and often take time. But every small step ultimately leads to the finish line if we keep moving. We may not be there now but if we keep going, we are closer today than we were yesterday.
I used to tell my son, “There are two things in life that if they come easy you don’t want; women and money.” But the truth is, I think there are many things. For example, we put weight on pound by pound over the course of years and yet are frustrated when we don’t lose it all in a month. We tend to grasp what we believe is true love without the investment of cultivating a deep relationship and then wonder why it dissipates so quickly. In hindsight, we stand at the base of the mountain, looking up, overwhelmed and decide we cannot make the summit. Yet, all of these can be made possible by simply taking the first step.
I think patience and perseverance go hand in hand. Through the exhaustion of the race, we discover that we are strong; stronger than we thought but also as strong as we allow ourselves to be. We must do whatever it takes to avoid discouragement and not give up our tenacity to reach the finish line because that consistency and dedication is the key to our success. In fact, I have heard that perseverance is stubbornness with a purpose.
Girl, it’s time to focus on the sparkle. No matter how you feel, no matter what stands in your way, get up, get dressed, get moving and do not give up. Fighting where you are and where you want to be is the hardest battle you may ever fight but your patience in persistence will reveal your future and after all, Eleanor Roosevelt said it best when she said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” So, get stubborn with your purpose.
Wherever you are today does not have to be your reality. And please don’t settle. If you want more, achieve more, if you desire better, do what it takes to make it better. If you crave a new situation, relationship, career, or circumstance, tackle it one day at a time making necessary steps toward achieving the goal. A beautiful life doesn’t just happen. It is built daily one step at a time by prayer, humility, patience, tenacity, sacrifice and love. Seek whatever it takes within your life, the smiles and laughter, to keep you motivated and give you strength to put one foot in front of the other, step by step toward reaching the life you desire. By being persistent you will breakthrough obstacles and discover that the fruit of your patience and tenacity will be the sweetest.
© c. michelle bryant
Michelle Bryant is an entrepreneur, nationally acclaimed award-winning artist, inspirational speaker, self-published author of five books available at most online retailers, multi-award winning, and a published photographer whose work is nationally used for worldwide marketing campaigns and featured on various items including but not limited to apparel. She shines her light and speaks from her heart in an encouraging and transparent manner and offers a message of hope, healing, and victory to any who encounter her or her works. You can check out her multitude of works at www.divinelyfocused.com.